The Standards We Set

So much of what we do and what we believe about ourselves is influenced by our past behavior. It becomes the story that we tell ourselves, whether we realize it or not, and can have a huge impact  on our future actions. I started reading Girl, Wash Your Face by Rachel Hollis, and wanted to share some of her quotes that really stood out to me.

“What standards you’ve set for yourself is where you’ll end up… unless you fight through your instincts and change your pattern.” Think of the standards you set for yourself when it comes to nutrition and exercise. When you set a goal, how well do you stick with it? For example, when I “commit” to cleaning up my diet, the truth is, I’m usually good during the week, and then fall off during the weekend. I justify this because I work out hard, because life should be enjoyed, because I’m about a healthy lifestyle and not a strict diet, etc. But really, it’s a pattern that has become my standard. What if I change that pattern, and stay a little stricter on the weekends? Do I really need a second glass of wine, or Coscto birthday cake? Not only would I see the health benefits of less sugar and alcohol, but I would build the confidence in myself that I can follow through and crush my goals.

“Our words have power, but our actions shape our life.” It is powerful to say things out loud and to have a daily mantra, but actions do speak louder than words. You have to put in the work. If you are consistently talking about things and not following through, not only do other people see that, but you are subconsciously telling yourself that you are not worthy enough of keeping your commitments and you can end up sabotaging your results. If you say you are going to do something, stick with it! Start with small goals to build that belief in yourself. Once you start accomplishing smaller things, like sticking to your workout schedule and going to bed on time, not only will you feel those benefits, but you become a person that can do whatever you put your mind to.

“Slow down your yes. Only commit to things you know you can accomplish because they are incredibly important to you.” Our lives our full (I hate the word busy). We want to succeed at work, grow our business, eat healthy, workout, volunteer at school, vacation, the list goes on and on. And while it’s good to have goals and live a well rounded life, it’s easy to get overwhelmed with trying to do everything. Think of where you are in life and what is most important to you right now. Only commit to what matters the most, and know that your goals can change as life happens. You will be more successful by fully focusing on a few important things, than trying to be everything to everyone.

So take some time and think about your standards. What is most important to you and what are you willing to do to get there? Pick a few meaningful goals and stay committed to them.

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